Trauma Soup: The second wave of bad parenting. Beware the Ogre!!

Bad Parents.. How the second wave approach will feel like this to many? Why it will be twice as visual and scary to make us ‘stay at home’

So many of us are feeling that we are holding out for those infamous words of “second lockdown” we are just waiting like anxious children, knowing we haven’t actually done anything to deserve the second ‘grounding’ but we know its coming….

When working with children who experience trauma and abusive abodes, whether that be with their families, out on the streets or in residential settings, one thing they often have in common is this feeling of niggling anxiety about the moment when shit hits the fan. They can't explain it, they just know its coming. This threat feeling is the worst… We know its coming, we can feel it but we don’t have an exact time-space location, date or anything else to help ease the niggle

We (the adults) are now engaging in behaviours that resemble children who are abused, we are looking to the news, social media and others to talk incessantly about this ‘threat’ in order to reduce the fear. I’m not talking about the virus just yet, I’m talking about the ogre whose going to say in a booming voice “Stay at home!”

We are looking to the other adults in the hope that one will be in charge and sort the…